Because We Lived All of This.

Every. Single. Word.

Not theory here. No “gee, I wonder if this works….”

Here’s what that means, point blank; many, if not most, of the “relationship industry” and the “self-help gurus” are built on fluff and empty promises. It’s generally a bunch of people who themselves have never really been in the shit, and yet, there they are trying to tell you how to clean yourself off; they have no practical idea as to what it really takes to get free of the bullshit that seems to stifle and hinder your progress towards the life and love that you really want.

for example, if you should ever need a surgeon, Do you want the surgeon that has only read about surgery, or the one that has already been in the heat and bowels of the truth, in real-time and has lived it firsthand?

Bold words?

Damn straight.

that "all smiles and grinning" toxic positivity? That’s not us.

We don’t do “healing journeys.” We don’t “hold” your hand and do it for you. No toxic “woo-woo” and absolutely no empty promises.

Your evidence?

Sharon and I.

“So what? Who the fuck are you two?”

Two people that have actually lived this. Every. Single. Thing. In every breath.

I didn’t “find myself” in a meditation retreat. I didn’t “affirm” my way here. I didn’t “pray” for the “manifestation.” The hot rocks  that I walked on didn’t “set me free”.

Neither did Sharon; she lived it all real-time.

We didn’t “hope” our way here either.

We found ourselves (and each other) through the living and effort that was required of us in ways that no one had taught us about, let alone showed us “how” to do it.

We loved and lived our way out of the bullshit.

For me:

• Multiple DUI's

• Four divorces (yes, four. That’s how many it took for me to get on the path of self-inquiry and understanding that I have and live now)

• A damn-near successful suicide in 1994

• The death of my infant son in 1999

• Decades of believing the internalized lie that I was fundamentally and functionally a “piece of shit”

I wasn’t “lost.” I wasn’t “misaligned.” I was using a broken and fundamentally fucked-up decision-making process that produced the same catastrophic results every single time, over and over and over again.

I didn’t need a “hug”. I didn’t need to “think positively”; I needed a blueprint that I could understand and apply to dismantle the accepted self-concept of “me” that kept burning my own damn life down.

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The Collaboration (Sharon & Chase)

Sharon and I don’t have or live a “fairytale.” We have a functional partnership. We built what we have by using the exact same checklists, processes and work (and it is work) found in these workbooks.

• We don’t “hope” for a good day

• We don’t “manifest” a connection

• We don’t relegate our lives to others

• We use a real-world process to ensure we aren’t lying to ourselves without conscious awareness

• We’re not “performing” love to self or one another

• And we sure as shit are not still living the same lies we told to ourselves and called it “truth” 

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The Standard 

We are not looking for “followers.” We are looking for people who are done with the bullshit and want a practical and consistent way to deal with the life they’re living that organically leads to a lasting life of happiness on their own terms.

We are here for the ones that “feel” the bullshit and yet, may not be able to articulate what it is that seems “off”. 

This is for you.

• If you want someone to tell you it’s all going to be okay, hand you rainbows and unicorns: Go elsewhere.

• If you want a “manifestation” coach: Close this tab. Leave this page.

• If you want to examine, reevaluate and own the evidence of your own life, and then take radical (and it is radical—and not just a little bit) accountability to self for the results you’ve been getting (or not getting), and you want to really build a new life based on a new understanding of the reality that you find yourself living: Then you’re in the right place.

We aren’t your "gurus." We are the living “Mountain of Evidence” that if you change the inner architecture, you change the life. And that’s not some woo-woo bullshit.

Period.

Are you ready? 

This is all real. It’s binary. It’s hard: It forces you, the reader, to choose. You are either a “Step-up” person or a “Hobbyist.” Or, to really lay it out there, you’re someone that is really and truly more comfortable with the way things are, so that in truth, you can continue to avoid the hard work that’s required; it’s the “easier” path. 

Truth, everything that Sharon and I have created tends to offend the hobbyist, the “going through the motions” practitioner— which is exactly what we wanted and what you need if you’re ready to move forward.

Your choice.



Sharon and I are the living evidence.

And guess what, that truth isn't dependent on whether or not people scoff.

You can have that confidence too.

I went through four big things at the same time: Undiagnosed Hashimoto’s Disease and Endometriosis. Stage 3 Cervical and Thyroid cancers. All of these at the same damn time—and I'm here to refine the life and love I, me, myself want.

no tricks, no gimmicks, no fixing. I'm living intentionally--you've got to know the rules to stretch them.

And I'm curious too.

I'm not for everyone and that's okay--one size doesn't fit all.

That's what happens when you live through the furnace and arrive at honesty.

no more hiding.

Life comes a'callin'...

When Sharon was diagnosed with stage 3 cervical and thyroid cancers—the kind of realities that splits you open—we faced the same question we always had: can we keep going? The answer, somehow, was yes. Out of that honesty came these workbooks, these courses, these pieces of our lives turned into something that you can hold.

We’re not here to sell you on bullshit or make-believe. We’re not here to play the "we have all the answers" game either. If something here resonates, take it. If it doesn’t, move on. No hard feelings.

We’re over the bullshit. Over the salesmanship. Over the noise.

Over the lies.

And maybe, if you’re honest, you are too.