This is not a site for showing you how to "get" the love of your lifetime — at least not in the ways that you're likely thinking about now.
If that's what you thought that this was, that's perfectly okay. But now that you know that's not what this is about, what do you do now?
do you stay or leave?
it's your choice.
If you stay, then sit with your "why" for just a moment.
What brought you here?
It's not random.
Why stay?
And truly, if you do stay, what's in it for you?
We are Sharon and Chase Murphy, and what we share here going to answer that question and many more that you may have been asking, either to yourself silently or out loud.
Sharon:
What’s in it for me? You’re asking me? I don’t live in your head, wear your skin, or chew your food. BUT I’ve already done the heavy lifting. Know how I can say that? You know that space between the choice and when you catch yourself reacting before you’ve fleshed out what you properly think, the bits in between? That’s the spot.
Chase:
This is for the men and women who are hurting. Not occasionally. Consistently. The same hurt, the same patterns, the same shit showing up over and over again no matter what you try. You don't have to stop hurting. That's not what this is.
The pros told me not to say this next part, but I'm going to anyway.
some of us are fucking exhausted from just trying not to hurt anymore. we have kept our pain suppressed, or shuffled around inside in an attempt to not lose our minds. but for some of us, at night, when the noise of the world isn't as loud, we find ourselves fighting not to get swallowed up or even lost in guilt, shame, fear, doubt, the "voices" of anyone and everyone that told us that we weren't "good enough."
There.
I said it.
where other people might promise overnight "fixes."
I don't.
This work doesn't.
Somewhere between three and nine months the same old shit stops hitting as hard and as often.
That's not a miracle.
That's just what happens when you commit to consistent real work. that's what this actually produces.
you are still going to cry and scream into the pillow a time or two, But you can hurt less often.
You can hurt less deeply.
And when it does show up — and it will — you'll have a real method to address it. Without suppressing it. Without numbing it. Without needing to be drunk to get through it.
That's why this exists.
This is for the person who has tried it all. Affirmations. Breath work. Manifestation. Living in the end. Psycho-Cybernetics. Quantum this or that. Channeling. All the stuff we're told we're supposed to do to get to where we want to go and who we want to be. And maybe some of it worked. For a minute. Until it didn't. And if you're being honest with yourself, it never really worked consistently. This is for those of us who still hope, despite all of that, that something real exists. Not mystical. Not magical. Just real.
The workbooks aren't a system you read. They're a gauntlet you move through. The Mist first. Then the Shit. Then The Confrontation. In that order, for a reason. Each one surfaces what the previous one loosened. You can't skip ahead. You can't start in the middle. The sequence is the mechanism.
Some of you will have already figured this out, but in keeping with the directness of how we do things here, I want to make sure that some of you fully understand what is happening.
This homepage is a filter.
That’s intentional.
It’s designed to make some of you uncomfortable enough to leave, and to make others of you feel like you’ve finally found the right room.
Both outcomes are absolutely correct.
I did an episode about my grandmother's biscuits and gravy. Press play or don't. It will either make sense to you or it won't, but you will know where I'm coming from and how I got to this moment in the creation of all that we share here.
And where you might be, with you….
this site, and all of the workbooks and workshops are all about the belief that if you don’t love yourself, you can forget about finding it “out there.”
You must become the love of your lifetime for yourself, just as you are, for you are the only one that is always with you, and if you don’t or can’t love yourself, just as you are, right now, you simply cannot give what you do not possess.
You must be the love of your lifetime.
Think on that for a moment.
You have to love yourself.
We aren’t “life coaches” with a certification from a weekend seminar. We are two people who have been through shit. From my suicide attempt in 1994 while I was in the army, to Sharon’s two simultaneous cancers (stage 3 cervical and thyroid cancers at the same damn time) and other health challenges, childhood trauma, and just a bunch of other shit that I’m not going to “list” right here, but through it all, we came out the other side still standing — together.
We wrote these workbooks because we wanted something that spoke to us in ways that didn’t revolve around “mystical” language, methods that required a belief in things “out there” and more, we just wanted plain-ass talk that didn’t generally insult our intelligence.
That’s what this is.
Sharon:
This is Sharon.
I’m not used to this. Chase has been at this for years. I’m still finding my words. And despite everything I’ve been through — and there’s been a lot — sitting down and saying it out loud is still new for me.
Which means if you’re reading this and you don’t quite have the words yet either — you’re already in the right place.
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At this point you have three options.
You can keep doing what you’ve been doing. The affirmations, the breath work, the manifestation work. Maybe it clicks eventually. It hasn’t yet, but maybe.
You can find a coach or a therapist or a guru who will hold your hand through it. There’s nothing wrong with that. It works for some people. It’s also expensive, and it still requires you to do the actual work.
Or you can pick up The Confrontation for $47, go through the gauntlet yourself, and find out whether this is the real thing or just another thing.
That’s it.
Three options.
Only one of them is ours.
[Get the free workbook The Mist here]
If you want to know more about who we are, right now, check out the “who we are” page.
OR
Not ready for any of that yet?
Start here instead.
Kick Rocks: Be Real. Be Free. Be You.
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