I cannot make this site and the workbooks appeal to all people. 

I had to accept that no matter what I did, some of you won’t stop scrolling long enough to take a breath, let alone read this homepage or fully engage with what Sharon and I created.

That also means that some of you want immediate relief or answers, and that what you’re looking for, we simply don’t have here.

We simply cannot appeal to all people.

So we’re not trying to.

That’s not to say that we didn’t try.

In the beginning of all this, before Sharon and I married, I tried to soften my demeanor and approach. I tried to emotionally tip-toe. I tried to do what others told me to do; don’t offend, confront, irritate, put-off or otherwise prevent people from getting to the “buy button. ”

The “funnel.”

Do it “this way,” they said. Don’t do it “that way,” they said.

I tried it. Tried to keep my mouth shut and go along to get along.

In the end, after spending money that could have been spent on other things far more enjoyable than that rabbit hole, I am here, doing this shit my way.

Fuck a funnel and that “trickery” bullshit.

Here we go.

Some of you have no idea who Sharon and I are, let alone what we do. Some of you won’t give a shit, or don’t give a shit, and just want to get on with it and see if what we offer is worth your time and energy. 

Still others of you just want “proof.”

That’s fine.

That’s life.

We can’t be all things to all people.

Yeah, fuck that.

But here it is.

We can’t offer you shit that will “help” you.

In the end, what you do or don’t do is going to be 100% on you. As it was for Sharon and I, and every other person on this planet, in the end, we make our own decisions about what’s been done to us, what we do or don’t do, and just as importantly, how we feel and think about who we are in relation to everything.

Every. Thing.

In fact, all Sharon and I do is share with you what we went through, how we got through it, how we nurture ourselves and one another on a day-to-day basis, on a moment-to-moment basis in such a way as to spend more time happy than feeling fucked-up, confused and wondering if there’s really a point to any of this shit we went through or occasionally, still have to contend with.

That’s life.

So no bullshit promises. Not a single “you can do this,” fake rah-rah bullshit that many of us have encountered.

No mystical shit. No “top ten” lists. No fake-ass affirmations that are nothing more than recycled quotes yanked from the internet.

One more thing I will say, right now, is that if you’re in a “hurry” to get away from something (whatever it might be) or get to something quick and fast, yeah, sorry, that’s not likely going to happen here.

One of the fucking problems with fear, desperation and panic, masquerading as intensity, is that our logical approach to things is somehow above the noise of fear, desperation and panic—it’s a mask many times that hides, even from ourselves, the underlying reasons of our “hurry”.

Being in a “hurry” is a part of the problem. 

When we’re in a hurry, we all tend to miss important shit and find ourselves having to go back and do what could have been done properly in the first place, all over again anyway.

And this is the part that really fucked with my head in ways that I didn’t think I was prepared to accept. What Sharon and I finally understood about all of this living “thing”; everything that we experience is exactly what we need in that moment.

We just don’t ever seem to know it while in the midst of the shit we’re dealing with.

And that’s not some woo-woo shit. And yes, I know, some of you think that’s bullshit.

I did too.

Until it wasn’t.

Ain’t that a bitch?

So, there ya’ have it.

Stay or go. 

It’s all your choice from here on out.

I want you to think of something that you find relatively easy to do now, that at one time, may have been a challenge. I don’t care what that thing is, but have it clearly in your mind.

For example, if you’re a musician, can you recall what it was like when you first picked up your instrument and had no real idea as to how to make it sound the way it sounds now? Can you remember?

I play the flute. I can clearly remember making dogs howl from my first attempts. Now? Even after years of not playing regularly, I have the confidence that in very short order, I could get back to a playing proficiency that I would be pleased with.

But getting to this level of confidence did not happen overnight.

Bear with me a bit longer…. There is a very real reason I am taking so long to get to the point. 

Think about the hours and hours and hours of practice, and time, and energy, and the occasional frustrations, and even moments where you might have thought that you would never, ever be the musician that you dreamed of being that came along with getting proficient, and then finally, in due time, mastering what it takes to make that thing move the heart and soul the way that you do now?

Most of us, even with the current technology, still had to learn the basics. We had to learn how to sequence our thoughts and physical expressions into a pattern and process that synced in such a way as to allow us to perform at our highest level of skill.

And for most of us, we came to realize that to truly master our instrument, there are no real shortcuts.

None that really bypassed the necessary foundational principles necessary to truly master our instrument.

It took time.

It took energy.

It took consistency.

It took getting beyond whatever obstacles and challenges, doubts and frustrations that came along with learning to master the instrument.

It took accepting that, in some ways, it was about learning a whole new skill and way of relating to ourselves that you may not have even known you had.

That’s what this process is like.

This process of getting to the life and love that you say that you want.

It will take time.

It will take energy.

It will take consistency.

But more than anything else, it will take a level of honesty with self that many of us either don’t know we have, or if we do know it, for whatever reason, we try and avoid with all we are.

And to be blunt, if any of this doesn’t resonate with you, as much as I can relate, as I was once there, I can tell you now, with my whole being, that there are no shortcuts.

To get to know you in the way that changes your life, truly, there are no shortcuts.

Take a pause and really read what’s here. Set aside the skepticism long enough to really internalize what’s being said.

Sharon and I have built something that requires linear progression and as a result, you need to start with the first part.

We didn’t do this to be cute, we did it because that’s what life required of us. 

First was Sharon’s cancer diagnosis’s (Stage 3 Cervical and Thyroid cancers—at the same fucking time), then came the biopsies, then more in depth planning, then the chemo and radiation, the ten surgeries (as the husband, these appointments and surgeries all seemed to blur into one long, painful series of "I feel helpless," but that's truth. That's loving and living).

That’s order. That’s not random.

That’s what life demanded.

So despite the fact that it may seem frustrating to have to slow down and follow a path not of your own making, sit with this and trust that we’re not blowing smoke up your ass.

This is lived.

For some of you, this may still seem like bullshit, or that we’re trying to set you up for something. 

But that’s not it. 

It really has to do with the fact that most everything worthwhile in our lives requires a degree of organization as opposed to just random-ass shit handed to you willy-nilly.

The first step is to get The Single Sh*t and Relationship Ruckus.

To give you an idea of what’s in it, here’s a link to the sample pages.

If that resonates with you, cool, keep going.

If not, no harm, no foul, you can get on with your life.

By the way, for the samples of any of our work, you don’t have to give us a damn thing. No name, no email—nothing.

[SAMPLE PAGES HERE] (and no, still don’t need an email)