Who This Is Not For
This work will not help you if:
- You’re looking for someone to blame for your life.
- If you need a “fix” for emergency shit that’s kicking your ass right now.
- You want comforting affirmations instead of uncomfortable questions that aren’t all about “manifestation” and “vibrations.”
- You believe simply “knowing the truth” is enough to change anything.
- You want a quick fix that lets you keep the same habits and patterns.
Quick. Fixes.
There are
none here.
And it definitely isn’t for you if you’re looking for someone to hold your hand while you avoid the hard parts.
Because the hard parts are the work.
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Who This Is For
This is for the people who have quietly (or shouted, “fuck this” and meant it) reached a point where the pain of staying the same is louder than the fear of changing.
People who are tired of repeating the same patterns in relationships.
People who are willing to look at themselves honestly—even when that honesty stings.
If that’s you, then you’re in the right place.
Let’s stay real and talk about the shit that fucks us up.
No bullshit.
There is a pain and ache that some of us have had, and some of you do right now, that we don’t tend to speak about out loud.
It’s the kind of pain and ache that, in the night, when it’s dark and there’s no one else around, brings tears to our eyes because of just how acute it is when there’s nothing there to effectively distract us.
When we’re not working at jobs.
When we’re not with “friends.”
When we’re not doing just about anything to keep us from having to deal with that fucking “silence,” that is the ache.
You know what I’m talking about.
And that shit doesn’t ever seem to go away for any real length of time.
For me, I used alcohol and sex partners that didn’t demand too much of me. Though I was secretly hoping that they might still choose to love me anyway; I dared to dream that someone could love me despite all of my baggage.
Get it?
So yeah, I know what some of you are dealing with.
Want some “proof” first?
Cool, I get that too.
Ready?
- 4 divorces. Yeah, you read that shit right. 4. I tried to find “god” and love at the same time, with 4 attempts.
- 4 DUIs. Yeah, you read that right too. So yeah, I was trying to shut out the world 40-ounces at a time, over and over and over again.
Shall I continue?
Okay, here ya go.
- Sexual abuse by a dude when I was in junior high. Nothing like a little repeated sodomy to fuck one’s self-concept and worldview all the way up.
- An infant son that died July 31, 1999. SIDS.
- And my current beloved wife’s Stage 3 Cervical Cancer AND Thyroid Cancer at the same fucking time, in 2023.
So I am your living proof.
My beloved wife is living proof.
The love that we have and live every single day is your living proof.
Get it now?
None of this is meant as “trauma-porn” or intended to make you feel “sorry” for me.
And it sure as hell doesn’t make me some kind of guru either. Fuck no.
Instead, this comes from two people who lived it, made it through, and figured out some very non-woo-woo shit along the way.
But only if you choose to; it’s not going to happen randomly or “hoping” that it will.
So no, I don’t give a shit if you’re 22 or 92, if you’re in that emotional dark space, I may have something that can help set you off onto another path of peace, joy and a level of fucking happiness that you likely don’t even believe exists.
I didn’t.
But now I’m living it.
Look, most of us have heard the promises, the marketing, the “this is the answer,” scripts and it’s cost us time, money, energy and whether we want to say it out loud or not, it cost us trust.
I am also well aware of that, so there is very little that I can say that can or will truly offset that lack of trust when someone is selling something, or when someone is making claims about the efficacy of whatever it is that they’re talking about.
And I know that this is no different.
This journey and the work, was, and is, fucking hard. It is so very, very hard.
But here’s the thing:
And it’s now your move.
Let's keep being real; You can keep right on scrolling. You can keep right on pretending that you've got your shit together, even against that however-vague feeling you have that lets you know that your shit is not together. You can hope that "knowing" the truth is enough to change the life you've settled for. (It isn't.)
But, and only if you're willing to keep being brutally honest, and only if you are willing to recognize that the pain has gotten louder than the reasons to keep tolerating it, then I’m not going to ask you to "poke around" our website....
I’m going to show you exactly where to start.
So if you’re still here, let’s stop circling the "problem."
Sharon and I took the shit that we lived through, of those 4 DUIs and 4 divorces that I endured, the cancers she had to contend with, the dead infant child, and with all of that, we dared to love and live through it all to build a framework that actually does more than “survive the storm.”
If you’re actually ready to do something different, let me show you where Sharon and I started, and where the real finger-cracking, neck-arching and shit-stirring begins.
We call it The Trilogy Foundation.
The trilogy isn’t a promise. It’s a living toolkit taken from our real lives, as two very real people, that have lived in the shit, and so we have a very, very good idea of the shit you’re already fighting—against your own bullshit, against the lies you’ve swallowed and internalized, and yet that you still fight against and against the life you’ve settled for.
If you want to see what the "other side" looks like—the actual lived evidence—go to our About page.
If you’re actually and genuinely done looking and you're ready to start the evaluation of your own excuses, go straight to The Foundation.
Either way, it may be time for you to stop waiting for permission.
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(No refunds. No apologies. Just the truth.)
This is not for everyone and we know that. Frankly, the hard truth is, we own that fact that it’s not for most people. It’s for the ones who are done waiting for permission to live and be themselves.
So yep, there it is.
What the fuck ya’ gonna do?
Because either way, and I think that we all know, that whether it's with Sharon and I, and what we’ve built and created, or with someone or something else,at some point, you’re going to have to deal with yourself in a new, effectively honest way.
So, will you be prepared when that shit hits the fan?