Chase:

This is for the men and women who are hurting. Not occasionally. Consistently. The same hurt, the same patterns, the same shit showing up over and over again no matter what you try. You don’t have to stop hurting. That’s not what this is. But you can hurt less often. You can hurt less deeply. And when it does show up — and it will — you’ll have a real method to address it. Without suppressing it. Without numbing it. Without needing to be drunk to get through it.

That’s why this exists.

Sharon:

What’s in it for me? You’re asking me? I don’t live in your head, wear your skin, or chew your food. BUT I’ve already done the heavy lifting. Know how I can say that? You know that space between the choice and when you catch yourself reacting before you’ve fleshed out what you properly think, the bits in between? That’s the spot.

This is for the person who has tried it all. Affirmations. Breath work. Manifestation. Living in the end. Psycho-Cybernetics. Maybe even some Neville Goddard or Joe Dispenza. All the stuff we’re told we’re supposed to do to get to where we want to go and who we want to be. And maybe some of it worked. For a minute. Until it didn’t. And if you’re being honest with yourself, it never really worked consistently. This is for those of us who still hope, despite all of that, that something real exists. Not mystical. Not magical. Just real.

Chase:

The workbooks aren’t a system you read. They’re a gauntlet you move through. The Mist first. Then the Shit. Then The Confrontation. In that order, for a reason. Each one surfaces what the previous one loosened. You can’t skip ahead. You can’t start in the middle. The sequence is the mechanism.

This homepage is a filter.

That’s intentional.

It’s designed to make some of you uncomfortable enough to leave, and to make others of you feel like you’ve finally found the right room.

Both outcomes are absolutely correct.

this site is not designed to be rushed or skimmed. And if that’s what you need, you’re in the wrong place.

So you’ve stopped long enough to decide whether or not this is for you.

If you’re still here, then read on and truly consider what’s shared.

If not, we wish you the best.

This is not a site for showing you how to get the love of your lifetime — at least not in the ways that you’re likely thinking about now or have thought about in the past.

Ultimately, and this is the part that will help you decide whether you want to go any further here at this site:

this site, and all of the workbooks and workshops are all about the belief that if you don’t love yourself, you can forget about finding it “out there.”

You must become the love of your lifetime for yourself, just as you are, for you are the only one that is always with you, and if you don’t or can’t love yourself, just as you are, right now, you simply cannot give what you do not possess.

You must be the love of your lifetime.

Think on that for a moment.

You have to love yourself.

This website and the workbooks are all about the journey that I began before I even met Sharon, and then, with the union that is my marriage and life with Sharon, we both share with you how we got here, how we nurture the love, one another and the relationship that celebrates us both as individuals.

That’s it.

Sharon and I both started, initially uncomfortably and unconsciously with a very simple, but seemingly complex set of questions.

As we both had to do, ask yourself right now, and answer honestly, what are you looking for, and what are you expecting to have happen if you do find “it?”

These workbooks are the very real living process that Sharon and I used, without really even knowing what the hell we were actually doing consciously, and yet now, with conscious awareness, we still use all of this, to feel our way through and in the life that we finally love.

We aren’t “life coaches” with a certification from a weekend seminar. We are two people who have been through shit. From my suicide attempt in 1994 while I was in the army, to Sharon’s two simultaneous cancers (stage 3 cervical and thyroid cancers at the same damn time) and other health challenges, childhood trauma, and just a bunch of other shit that I’m not going to “list” right here, but through it all, we came out the other side still standing — together.

We wrote these workbooks because we wanted something that spoke to us in ways that didn’t revolve around “mystical” language, methods that required a belief in things “out there” and more, we just wanted plain-ass talk that didn’t generally insult our intelligence.

That’s what this is.

But the deeper truth is, some of you have no idea who Sharon and I are, let alone what we do. Some of you won’t give a shit, or don’t give a shit, and just want to get on with it and see if what we offer is worth your time and energy.

So there’s no real reason to trust a damn thing that we say or share.

Some of you want tangible proof.

That’s fine. That’s life.

Some of you are going to want proof before you commit to any of this. That’s reasonable. We’re not offended by it. We don’t have celebrity endorsements or a massive following or a TEDx talk. What we have is Sharon still here, still standing, after two simultaneous cancers. And me, still here, after a suicide attempt, homelessness, and more bad decisions than I care to list. The workbooks are what we used. That’s the proof. 

But if you’re in a “hurry” to get away from something (whatever it might be) or get to something quick and fast, yeah, sorry, that’s not likely going to happen here.

One of the fucking problems with fear, desperation and panic is how easily it can start to feel a very real sense of urgency or intensity. Not to say that it’s not sometimes “intense,” but for some of us, when we’re in those moments, we go into our “fix it now” mode and then stop seeing what’s actually behind the hurry in the first place.

Being in a “hurry” is a part of the problem.

You likely know the loop.

And this is the part that really fucked with my head in ways that I didn’t expect, and more, once I felt it, I didn’t think I was prepared to accept it. It’s something that both Sharon and I started to notice in the middle of it all.

We don’t always see it while we’re in the middle of the shit we’re dealing with.

There are times when we simply must slow the fuck down.

Literally.

Sharon:

This is Sharon.

I’m not used to this. Chase has been at this for years. I’m still finding my words. And despite everything I’ve been through — and there’s been a lot — sitting down and saying it out loud is still new for me.

Which means if you’re reading this and you don’t quite have the words yet either — you’re already in the right place.

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At this point you have three options.

You can keep doing what you’ve been doing. The affirmations, the breath work, the manifestation work. Maybe it clicks eventually. It hasn’t yet, but maybe.

You can find a coach or a therapist or a guru who will hold your hand through it. There’s nothing wrong with that. It works for some people. It’s also expensive, and it still requires you to do the actual work.

Or you can pick up The Confrontation for $47, go through the gauntlet yourself, and find out whether this is the real thing or just another thing.

That’s it. Three options. Only one of them is ours.

Otherwise, [get the free workbook The Mist here]

If you want to know more who we are, right now, check out the “who we are” page.