The relationship: magic or mess?

time to start really loving....

isn’t about fixing your partner or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about this: You’re either building a relationship that works for both of you, or you’re settling for one that works for neither. 

and You’ve felt it—the quiet resentment after another unspoken disappointment, the exhaustion of playing a role instead of being real, the nagging sense that you’re more roommates than lovers. You’re not just tired of the fights; you’re tired of the peacethat feels like surrender, the compromise that leaves you both empty, and the love that’s starting to feel like a habit instead of a choice.

This isn’t a "love" manual. It’s a fucking reality check. Because here’s the truth: The relationship you have right now is the one you’ve created—by what you’ve said, what you haven’t, and what you’ve refused to confront.

No fluffy, bullshit advice. No fairy-tale promises. Just the hard questions you’ve been avoiding:

• Are you staying because you want to—or because you’re scared to leave?
• What are you tolerating that you know is killing your connection?
• If your relationship ended tomorrow, would you look back and think, "I gave it everything I had"—or "I wasted my time"?

This workbook is for the ones who refuse to settle for “good enough.” For those who know love should feel like more than obligation, who are willing to face the messy truth, and who are ready to decide: Is this worth fighting for—or are you just fighting to avoid the truth? 

Stop waiting for your relationship to change. 

Start changing how you show up in it.

GENESIS: The Truth You’ve Been Too Scared to Face

This isn’t another “uncover your limiting beliefs” workbook. It’s a reckoning.

You’ve spent years—maybe a lifetime—chasing fixes, walking on hot coals (literally or metaphorically), and still ending up drunk, broken, or wondering if any of this “self-help” shit even works. That’s because most of it is bullshit. It’s designed to keep you on the hamster wheel, paying for the next promise, the next retreat, the next empty “transformation.”

Genesis is what happens when you stop pretending and finally ask:

• Who the hell am I, really?
• How much of my life have I outsourced to other people’s rules?
• What if the only thing standing between me and the life I want… is the story I’ve been telling myself?

This workbook isn’t about affirmations, manifesting, or “reprogramming your subconscious.” It’s about confronting the truth: You are the only person who’s been there for every moment of your life. No one else lived it. No one else can rewrite it. And no one else is responsible for what happens next.

Through brutal exercises, unflinching reflections, and the kind of honesty that’ll make you want to slam the book shut, you’ll:

• Name the lies you’ve been calling “self-concept” (spoiler: most of them aren’t even yours).
• Burn the scripts you’ve been following—about worth, love, and what you “deserve.”
• Start writing your own damn story, from the ground up.

Because here’s the real talk: If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. If you don’t know yourself, you’ll keep letting other people define you. And if you’re not willing to do the work, nothing changes.

This is for those who are done waiting for permission to live as themselves. No fluff. No gurus. No “easy fixes.” Just you, a pen, and the truth you’ve been avoiding.



Sample inside—no more hiding.

the love you're after

This is not a workbook about how to “get the person” or “manifest your soulmate.”

Ever.

It’s meant to be a pathway:

• Into your own personal patterns you’ve repeated
• the illusions you’ve protected, the ache you’ve carried and called “normal.”

This is not about psychology, mysticism or “spirituality” in the senses that many of us have already experienced.

You will not find soft affirmations or polished promises here. Nope. What you will find are the words we lived—unfiltered, bitter at times, and healing all the same. You will be asked to name the lies you’ve been living, even if you aren’t even aware of them right now. 

Based on the truth that each of us is allowed to stop begging for love. That at some point, to have the life that you desire, you have to face the cost of shrinking yourself small enough to be tolerated. There must be the question of why being “easy to love” has made you forgettable, even to yourself.

Inside are chapters that are meant to walk you into the patterns beneath your own pain, the difference between love and illusion, the truth of what it has cost to perform, and the recognition that you were never “too much” (ever)—and instead, consider that you were misunderstood. Each section is laced with real-world definitions, grounded exercises, and reflection questions designed not to fix you (you were never broken), but to return you to yourself—your full, unedited self.

Sharon and I lived this. And we still do.

We have found that the relationship itself has its own life and in nurturing ourselves, we then nurture one another.

And this lets our love thrive and grow and radiate and express the wonders of our dreams in ways that would never have happened had we not taken the journey that we did.

This guide was written not as theory, but as lived truth. We wrote it because we’ve been the ones who stayed longer, tried harder, and finally stopped pretending crumbs were enough.

You deserve real love. Not later. Not when you’ve proven yourself. Now.

It’s time.