Lead By The Heart
What does it mean to lead by the heart?
It means that you understand that, from the very beginning, that you run the risk of getting hurt. But this hurt is different. This kind of hurt is not about being abused or thinking that you have to keep being small and compliant.
No more.
It means that you have to stop pretending. Pretending that you don’t care. Pretending that you weren’t affected. Pretending that being logical made you strong. You built a whole life around managing your emotions, controlling the story, making it all look fine from the outside. Making sure that no one sees you cry. For me, I didn’t ask for help. I didn’t say what I really wanted until it was almost seemingly too late.
I kept it all buried under being “reasonable.”
And then I met someone who didn’t flinch. She didn’t twist herself to make me comfortable. She didn’t go soft just because I got loud. She didn’t vanish when I shut down. She stood there in her own truth—solid, honest, unbothered—and everything in me heard what she never needed to say out loud.
That’s what The Love You’re After is.
Not a concept. Not a program. Not a branding exercise.
This is the place that Sharon and I built after finally telling the truth to ourselves and living through it. It’s the place, the thing, the processes that I would’ve needed years ago when I thought I had to choose between being loved and being honest.
Being me.
Leading by the heart means you stop performing. You stop waiting to be chosen and you start showing up, as you are, without the practiced smile and without the edited version of your needs. It means you admit what hurts, even if your voice shakes. It means you stop letting fear pretend it’s intelligence. It means you let yourself feel before you over-explain. It means you stop holding yourself hostage in exchange for approval.
And no—it’s not clean. It’s not easy. And yes, you might get your heart broken.
But at least this time, it’ll be your true heart in the room. Not your coping mechanisms. Not your damage control. Not your representative.
Mine was.
And through that—I lived.
This whole work, every word of it, was born in that aftermath. After I let love undo me. After I finally stopped performing worthiness and started practicing truth. Sharon, my wife—my mirror, my anchor, my interruption—showed me what could happen when I stopped reaching for control and finally reached for connection. Not the shiny kind. The real kind. The kind that meets you where you actually are.
If you’re reading this, I don’t think you’re just curious. I think you’re ready.
Maybe just barely. Maybe still afraid. But something in you is loud enough now to drown out your excuses. Something in you wants to come up for air.
Let it.
We’re not here to impress you. We’re not here to save you. We’re not here to fix your love life with a list of tricks.
We’re just here to tell the truth.
And if something in you recognizes that truth—good.
You’re already leading by the heart.
And you’re not alone.
YOU GET TO DECIDE YOUR JOY. YOU GET TO EXPRESS YOUR PEACE.SMILE, DANCE, SING, LAUGH AS YOUR HEART, IS.
Open the door to the next level of your Life's journey.
Is it time, finally, to have the Love of Your Lifetime?
